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Pornography, Subordination Of Women And Sexual Pleasure

We live in a patriarchal society, where male dominance in the society is a well-recognized norm and often non-rebuttable. We say, “Law is above all”, and even the same law recognized the concept of male dominance. The Indian law does not recognize the concept of ‘marital rape’ for the reason that ‘it destroys the very institution of marriage’.

The Indian law considers woman to be a property of a man. When it comes to sex, men have the right to sexual pleasure as and when they want, but if women even talks about the same, she suffers humiliation, is given various sorts of tags and the social stigma. Gloria Steinem says “Prostitution is a result of an unequal society, if our society was equal, men would also be prostitutes”.

Let us now talk about porn-prostitution-dominance mechanism. By watching porn, we indeed create a demand for filmed prostitution. E.g – When a porn market is full of Asian porns, simultaneously there is someone working on providing Asian prostitutes. In economic terms, porn creates demand, and someone is working on the supply side to meet these demands, its pure business.

Is porn about erotica or sensuality? Isn’t about male dominance? Isn’t the very motive behind pornography is to amplify the subordination of women to men? That’s the very reason they are filled with abuse, humiliation and cry.  Has porn changed the very natural meaning of word ‘sexual’? Everything that men find arousing is sexual, be it the clothing or be it the place. Hasn’t the very nature of sex changed?

I am sure we were not originally filled with anger and violence when it comes to sex. I think to begin with, it was merely about sexuality and mutuality, the building of sexual tension, the exchange of words and the laughter. Our behavior in sex has transformed by way of watching porn. Porn often conquers our brain, and we lose the ability to imagine like any other form of media. While we watch Hindi romantic movies, people often imagine themselves in the place of the actor or the actress, the same goes with pornography, but the effect is different in this case, it is deep, profound and overtaking. Younger generation often feel frustrated after watching porn, because it conquers their brain.

If you closely notice most of the porn, the camera focuses on the penetration part, and the hands of the guy is at its back, and the girl is often in the uncomfortable position. It more often than not objectifies women and that women as a being should only work to satisfy men, and the effect of these pretty small-small things is very profounding because we become imitators to what we see (especially at young age) and aggressors if can’t reach that imitation level.

Porn does not teach us to be sensual, generous, attentive, co-ordinate or humorous, so the very meaning of word ‘sexual’ is definitely changing. Making your partner laugh in bed is as important as anything else, which porn often doesn’t teach us. For the matter of fact, the photo-shoots in the magazine are often photo shopped in such a way that it shows a flawless body and men imagine them with that woman. So, even the photo shoots in the magazine portray women as an object of subjugation. Is there anything as flawless in the real world? I am not sure. The same goes for the porn. The effect of such depictions is against the nature and often kids suffer the most because of such depictions, some feel inferior and some become aggressors.

No matter what profession a girl is working in, she has a little right to sexual pleasure, or even lively pleasure. Most men would like to have sex with prostitutes, but would any man like to take a prostitute to a restaurant? Irrespective of how many times a man would have slept with that girl, he can’t take him out. This is social death for prostitutes and women in our society suffer the same social death when they express their wants of sexual pleasures.

We often say that we are moving forward as a society to remove gender hierarchy, but I am of the opinion that we are not; we are indeed moving backwards and making gender hierarchy rigid. Women’s right to sexual pleasure has always been questioned and will always be questioned unless we understand the very being of both the men and the women. Pornography has definitely widen the gaps of gender inequality and it will continue to grow unless we understand the very effect of what we see and also question its motives. We need to start questioning things at the very modest level.

 

By- Jai Anand

(Jai Anand is a fourth year law school student at Jindal Global law School, Sonipat)

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